The human heart is complex and not always predictable. In interpersonal relationships, we can switch roles between the one who betrays and the one being betrayed. Often, only after something has gone wrong, we begin to realize that we have unknowingly become the person we most despise.
Mothers are garlic! Garlic is good for the immune system, but too much of it overpowers the dish. We cannot choose our mothers. But we can choose how we respond to the mother imprints within ourselves.
How to hold on to love is probably as important as giving love, if not more important. If you keep giving away love without holding on to love, you risk burning out quickly…
According to Richard Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems (IFS) theory, every person has multiplicity of internal parts that are often in conflict with one another. Schwartz’s ideas inspires me to rethink about Attachment theory. What we call “insecure” attachment patterns may actually be functional and protective for the needs of a vulnerable child who had been wounded.
Sometimes it’s good to just vent, without other people getting all upset and concerned about your mental health or morality or sanity… When we can allow our own insecurities to affect us deeply, perhaps that’s when authentic connection begins…
Hyper children, are often, grieving children. They are children who have suffered some forms of losses – be it the loss of early attachment relationship, sense of personal significance, or sense of safety and security in their external environment.
How do you understand intimacy?
I met a friend recently who got me pondering what’s really intimate and what’s not.
I never had a pet in my life. In fact, ever since as a child I saw my brother came home with a bite mark from a dog, I never liked animals. But still, sometimes life surprises us in the most ordinary of things… A rabbit!
When you are going through a hard time in your relationship, and you feel despair or mistrust that the other person either doesn’t care or can’t understand you, can you trust your heart is speaking to their heart, and their heart is speaking to yours?