Releasing love is not the same as romantic love. Releasing love is about FREEDOM. When you free someone, you free yourself as well. In contrast, romantic love is often about POSSESSION. When you possess (or think you possess) someone, you are possessed as well.
All good, healthy relationships start from BEING a good, healthy person, first to ourselves. And then, our love can naturally flow out to others. How do we then become more conscious about the precious Self, hidden deep within each of us?
What do you want? What are you looking for? Setting our heart’s intention right is half the problem solved. Transformative change requires that we spend time listening, and getting to know our hearts, so that we can get in touch with what’s truly important for our core being.
How we respond to a situation usually depends on our perception of the situation and the state of our relationship with the people involved. So, at every given moment, there are usually 3 CONTEXTS that are interplaying: my context, the other person’s context and our shared context.
As a therapist, sometimes I have monologues inside my head. This monologue emerged after a session with a mother and daughter. We are all somebody’s daughter or son. We cannot change our past or history. But we can create our own future, if we become more CONSCIOUS about how we are living our present.
Anger is normal. We feel angry when we feel wronged or harmed by others, or witness others being harmed or unjustly treated. Anger typically triggers fear and helplessness, in those who experience it and to those who witness it. Hence, people turn on fight or flight mode, to defend against anger, until they can no longer hold back and it explodes! Whilst anger can really hurt, it is often a secondary emotion. What underlies anger is usually fear. And the true antidote for fear is love.
After watching the newly released documentary “M for Malaysia”, the writer reflects on her experience of her country’s development in the last 16 months, since General Election 2018. Even as the new government is still learning to work together, the leadership of this country has shown what’s possible in a seemingly impossible situation… that is, to hold tension with care.
Have you ever fallen in love and felt so entangled that you cannot stop yourself from loving the person? If so, surely you know the torment of going back and forth between choosing to let go or hold on. In every stages of life, how do we decide when to hold on and when to let go of the very thing that seems most important to us at the time?